Tom Ford’s husband, fashion journalist Richard Buckley dead at 72

The designer said in April 2014 that he and Buckley had gotten married in the US. Fourteen months later, a Supreme Court ruling would make same-sex marriage legal in all 50 states.

“Tom has seen me through so much, from throat cancer to my brother and mother dying 48 hours apart, to more bouts of pneumonia than I can count,” Buckley told the New York Times in 2019, noting that Ford had sewn him turtleneck wool dickeys with keyhole slits for his tracheotomy tube and a black silk scarf with slits to wear at formal events.

Ford wrote about their relationship in an essay for the “Love Issue” of Out magazine in 2011.

“One of the things that always amuses me — ‘amuses’ isn’t even the right word, because it doesn’t amuse me — but often,” Ford said in the essay, “I’m at dinner parties with very close friends, straight, and they realise that Richard and I have been together 24 years, and the response is often, ‘Wow, you guys have been together 24 years! That’s so amazing. I don’t think of gay men being together that long.’ And I’m, like, ‘Why? What are you talking about?’ Some of the longest relationships I know of are same-sex couples.”

He added, “Richard and I are bound together, and I think that’s what that recognition is when you look someone in the eyes and you feel like you’ve known them forever. It is a kind of coming home.”

By Tuesday morning, people from the fashion industry and those with ties to Los Angeles had shared personal stories about Buckley and their condolences on social media. Friends of Buckley described him as a man known for his curiosity, kindness, wit and style.

In his condolences on Instagram, Cameron Silver, owner of vintage store Decades on Melrose Avenue in Los Angeles, wrote about how he met Buckley in 1997 shortly after Decades opened.

“He purchased a neon and black swirl ’60s dress on eyelash fabric,” Silver wrote. “Richard asked me lots of questions and was generally keen about why I had opened a vintage clothing store. Within a few days, Tom Ford had popped in and then Lisa Eisner. All explained that Richard had told them about this new vintage store on Melrose Avenue and the youngish guy who had opened it. Over the next few years, when I flew to Paris to shop for vintage or go to the flea markets, Richard would often accompany me.”

Silver went on to mention Buckley’s inquisitive nature and his spot-on design tastes. “I remember asking Richard about the furniture of Jacques Adnet and a desk I’d seen as I was naive to the value of the design,” he wrote. “Richard said, ‘Buy it’ and the desk now resides in the upstairs dressing room at Decades.”

Designer Rachel Zoe posted her condolences as well on Instagram, including a photo of Ford kissing Buckley’s cheek.

“We have lost such a beautiful and special soul, a gentleman of the greatest kind, Richard Buckley,” Zoe wrote. “To know him was an honor, to have had deep meaningful conversations with Richard was a gift I will hold tight forever. He was brilliant, witty, unapologetically honest and so very elegant. What was most extraordinary about Richard was his true love and dedication to Tom and as a father to his son Jack. I will miss you so very much Richard. May you Rest In Peace and with the angels friend”

Costume designer Arianne Phillips, who worked with Ford on his two feature films, A Single Man (2009), his directorial debut, and Nocturnal Animals (2016), posted a short message on Instagram, including the photo of Ford kissing Buckley: “a love like this rest easy beautiful elegant friend #RichardBuckley”

In an Instagram post, designer Zac Posen described Buckley as a class act “in the old school way. He had a keen eye, an excellent sense of humor, and was whip smart.

“He was the most loving and supportive partner to Tom,” Posen wrote. “It was such a beautiful thing to witness. I always felt a huge sense of relief over the past 20 years when I would see Richard and Tom. He loved and appreciated real glamour, style and class. He always checked in with me about my career, life and, of course, who I was going to be dressing for the Oscars. His honesty, perspective and care was a real rarity. I will miss Richard a lot. My deepest condolences to Tom and family.”

Glynis Costin, West Coast bureau chief of Instyle magazine, shared her memories of Buckley on Instagram along with a photo from the early ’90s of herself, Ford and Buckley in Milan, Italy.

“I am devastated that the world has lost the wonderful Richard Buckley,” she wrote. “He was a gentleman and a scholar with a quick wit and wry sense of humour. He was a kind and loyal friend and a great all-around human. I cherish our friendship of more than 30 years and my heart goes out to Tom and Jack. Richard, we know your [mischievous] blue eyes are still twinkling somewhere and your spirit will be with us always.”

Los Angeles Times