Why is Carrie Bradshaw still so wedded to her stilettos?

I rewatched the original Sex and the City recently, and when Carrie Bradshaw makes a joke about Birkenstocks being a lesbian shoe, I couldn’t help laughing at how old-fashioned she sounds.

Of course the show has dated – it was first released over 20 years ago and mainstream attitudes towards sexuality, politics and so much more have changed since then. Back in the Noughties, Miranda was allowed to complain endlessly about moving to a brownstone in Brooklyn… But little did Carrie know that those Birkenstocks she was maligning would end up being far more fashionable than the colourful heels she based so much of her personality around.

The world of women’s shoes has experienced a footwear revolution in the last few years – one that has arguably had as much of an impact as the hemline rising of the 1960s. Gone is the expectation that in order to look either attractive or professional, women need to be tottering around in six-inch heels. In fact, in the boardrooms, bars and boutiques of the most stylish cities in the world, you’ll see more biker boots, tasselled loafers, ballet flats and expensive trainers than ever before.

So imagine my surprise when, during an episode of And Just Like That, the same old joke was wheeled out again. Well, sort of. There was less of the casual homophobia, unsurprisingly, but just as much distaste for anyone un-heeled.

While following an oblivious Natasha, who is played by Bridget Moynahan, Charlotte turns to Carrie and Miranda and says, “Urgh, and she’s wearing flat shoes”. To be fair, the other two women do roll their eyes and say it’s not much of an insult, but the implication is still there that heels are somehow superior to anything flat.

For years, Sex and the City fed us the line that to be a glossy Manhattanite was to wear skyscraper stilettos to every occasion. Thanks to the costume designer Patricia Field and star Sarah Jessica Parker, vertiginous heels became bywords for sex and power and remained so until the footwear revolution of the past few years.

The show burst onto the cultural scene when I was a teenager, and its ubiquity meant that for many girls of my generation, glamorous womanhood became indelibly linked to high-heel wearing. We saved up our money to buy stilettos for student parties, and bought even more pairs to wear for our first jobs, convinced that tottering into the office gave us an aura of gravitas. Always with us, like an adult security blanket, were a pair of battered ballet flats for when the pain became unbearable.

But then the generation below me came out into the world and made it clear that feeling comfortable was as important as looking good. Watching And Just Like That post-lockdown has made me realise all over again just how right they were – mostly because nobody should ever equate confidence with sore feet.

“I think for Gen Z at least, this shift is here to stay,” says Mary-Leigh Bliss, the chief content officer at Ypulse, a youth marketing research firm in New York. “Just anecdotally I can say that going into a Manhattan or Brooklyn bar now feels completely different to how it did a decade ago because all the women are in flats – and the figures from our surveys reflect that.”